You know what? I don't think we're in Utah anymore.
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Today was just another little bite of not being in my comfort zone.
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Before we came down here I had gone online to try and find a new OBGYN to get me through the rest of this pregnancy while here in Texas. I found one that was taking new patients and I called them yesterday and made an appointment for today.
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Maybe the fact that he was accepting new patients so easily and had such a quick appointment
available should have been my first warning.
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I arrived for my 1:30 appointment by 1:15, knowing that since I was a new patient I'd need to fill out paperwork. I figured for this appointment it would be mostly answering questions and a quick appointment so I decided to just bring my kids with me rather than to pay the $3.50 per hour per child at the base daycare...since I don't know anybody and had no other babysitter.
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By 2:00 we still hadn't seen the doctor but we HAD accomplished these things:
- NASTY poopy diaper needing changing on an exam table.
- Playing "tag" in the waiting room, much to my extreme embarrassment and trying to wrangle.
- Wearing shoes on hands and crawling around like a cat.
- Etc., Etc., Etc.
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My only excuse for the behavior of my kids is that we have been living in a hotel for 9 days now...they're a bit wired.
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By 2:30 still no doctor, I had seen 2 women come OUT of their exam rooms wrapped in a sheet from the waist down because they needed to use the restroom and had been waiting THAT LONG.
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3:00...still no doctor, I was about ready to walk by now.
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3:15...I finally get sent back in to an exam room where I am told I will need to undress completely for a thorough exam. I informed the nurse I wasn't comfortable with that (I'd been there 2 hours, had my kids with me who were being patient but I wasn't up for that with them, and I JUST had my yearly a few months ago.)
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She told me that was just protocol and I said, "I don't think I will be doing that, I just had an exam a couple months ago and I haven't even met the guy." I was again willing to walk at this point.
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She said, "So...what are we doing then?"
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And I said to her, "All I need is a doctor to finish taking care of me through this pregnancy."
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She stood there for a minute like an old western stand off...then she finally said, "Okay, I guess that's fine." And she walked away. Brielle even asked me "why was that lady mad?" I thought we were going to have to duke it out right then and there.
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The doctor came in...he's very foreign, I DO NOT have a problem with people that are foreign, it's that I couldn't understand him very well...and he was very straight faced.
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He did an ultrasound, confirmed what I and my records I'd brought from Utah had already told him...that the baby is due around December 9th (although he moved it to December 7th!!) and that it was another girl.
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Then I told him I needed a note from a Texas doctor, because the one from my Utah doctor wasn't good enough for my husband's sergeant to let him come live with us...what's wrong with my Utah doctor, I'm not so sure. And really, that is the ONLY reason I did stay and wait that long. Marty needed that note today to see if they'd let him come live with us over the weekend.
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He agreed to write a new note - so that's one point for him I guess.
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Then we had to go sit in his office to talk some more.
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One of the first questions he asks, "So, are we tying your tubes after this c-section then?"
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I couldn't believe he had just asked that like it were no big deal. I said, "No."
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He kind of stared at me in disbelief and said, "So, does that mean you plan on having more children after this one?"
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I stood strong. "Absolutely."
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Again just staring at me..."You sure don't space your kids out. How many do you think you are going to have, you realize you have to have c-sections and that it's very risky, you sure we shouldn't tie your tubes after this?"
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"I plan on having as many as I possibly can before a doctor tells me it's absolutely not safe. I know people that were told that after 3 but I also know people that have had 7 c-sections and are fine. I will take them one at a time but I am not limiting myself."
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Again...dead staring at me like I was some sort of mystical creature, "Wow. Well, it's not safe to have very many, definitely NOT 7. In my 35 years of experience the most I've seen is 5 and they were extremely close to rupturing. So I would say that is an absolute max. But I wouldn't even have that many, you may want to consider tying your tubes after this baby."
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I smiled politely and said nothing more than, "No." I WANTED to tell him that we'll just have to agree to disagree. But I plan on ONLY seeing him for the 2 1/2 more months I have left to go...then I'm out of there...if I even stick with him. I really am not sure the 2 hour wait and slight ridicule of my feelings was worth it.
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Gosh I sure miss my doctor back in Utah.